The most talked about subject in the world could possibly be relationship. Relationship between a man and woman, brother and sister, lovers or even the people who we can't stand. It's weird how we can talk about it for hours and still getting nowhere. So I classified relationship as a battle that requires a lot of energy and mental toughness and only the strongest survives.

A very good friend of mine asked last night if I had some time to spare and listen to him. Well, for him I always make time. Recently, he went through a tough time when his GF of 5 years suddenly dumped him out of the blue. No explanation, no reasons, no chance to get back together. It would have been easy if he could just brush it off as a phase in his life but it's kinda hard since he actually love her and can't live without her. It's scary to think that when you fall in love, you surrender your heart and soul to the other person. You become too dependent and everything revolves round him or her. What's even scarier is you don't actually know whether your other half gives as much as you do. Hey, don't get me wrong. I like love and I want to be in love, to have somebody who loves me as much as I love him and be equal. But, does that mean we also give the power to them to slice our hearts to pieces?

This guy was miserable for weeks about a few months ago. He can't stop crying and can't even speak clearly. He saw a romance novel lying around my room, he cried. He saw lovebirds (real birds) on the electric cables, he cried. And believe me he cried at everything. I feel sorry for him for a number of reasons.

1) She doesn't want him as much as he wants her.
2) He's getting skinnier (he is already thin)
3) He lost his energy, since it was wasted on crying
4) She probably moved on with another guy
5) He was hoping to win her back

To tell the truth, I didn't think he'd has a chance to get her back. In the first place, why should he wants her back? It happened twice before. But because she can't bear seeing him grieving they were together again. Anyway, I thought it was over and he's getting on with his life again. Time will heal, people say. Unfortunately not for him. It was a lot harder to get on with life. He can't forget about her and all he wants is the witch. Well, she's not a real witch. To me, she just likes to keep to herself, very sarcastic, a bit selfish, occasionally fly on her broomstick and doesn't really care about other people's feeling. Basically, she could be called..mmm..a bitch? Isn't there a time when we all feel selfish and care only about ourselves? Meaning we all are bitches too, then.

So last night we started talking again about this and the odd thing is that they remain friends. How many of us remain friends with our exs? I mean good friends. This guy still call and talk to his ex for hours sometimes, he doesn't try to get her back but he just chat to her like a good friend would. Oh, they talked about what happened at work, his family, his ambitions, her work, her new life. I guess they talked about everyday things in life. The thing is this guy is great. He's sensitive, loyal, caring and funny. People just love him and he made no enemies. Yet, he couldn't understand why she doesn't want him. I can't say I know why but I guess I can't blame the witch if the chemistry is not there anymore. The point is, he told me he needs her to help him get over it. How odd, when it's she who caused all this chaos in his life. I find it weird and I keep telling him it's not the norm. When people broke up, they get out of each other life. Vanished, never to be seen again. His answer was 'I'm not most people and I don't care what people do'. I, on the other hand, said nothing. So, it was left hanging without us getting anywhere.